I was trying to post a comment to Renee Reedy, Isabel's photographer. I needed a Google password. I signed up for one; now here I am... feeling like a Free Bird. We entered Wedding World in September of 2006 with Bethany and Gabe, then in October added Isabel and Sam. Both proposals were in December. With all the secrecy and preparation, Thank God for Meredith - she took care of all of us and SO many details and huge things, I was pooped by the end of the year. I decided to start January '07 afresh.
My goal was to Keep the Brides Happy and Have Fun! I figured that if the brides were happy the grooms and families had a better chance at happiness. Although there were many details and inch by inch it did seem like a long year, we had so much fun most of the time right into January of 2008!
Ken and I left Oxford with Joanie, his mom, to take her to stay with her sister Sue in Illinois as Sue had recently had hip replacement surgery. It was a delightful trip; Dagger, our chocolate Lab, did his best to keep everyone entertained and loved. It was so wonderful to visit with all the Lomans. It was almost like a honeymoon for Ken and me.
We dated for five years before we married. Even in that time, every 2 or 3 years it was as though we fell in love all over again. That has continued throughout our married life which began August 5, 1972. What a blessing and gift from God to fall in love again with your spouse. The day to day life of a marriage can be very hard work! There are misunderstandings, hormones, tired, sick, busy, busy, busy, projects, etc. If you can live through them together, the bond is stronger. I hear on the Discovery channel of animals that mate for life. That is my prayer for humans as well, with the exception of cruelty and abuse - these marriages should end asap, I believe.
It is so much fun to share a meal with Ken, to go shopping with him, just to talk on the phone with him. We have recently watched a few movies on TV and laugh out loud when one of us uses a quote from the movies that fits our lives. Special words help set up a conversation such as: Metallurgy means we need to talk about something that may be unpleasant, but needs to be said. Jellybeans means that I need to tell you something silly that may be embarrasing or whatever. Router and Addresses mean that I am SO mad I can't stand it. This lets off steam without having to really talk about whatever is such a hot topic. A one word topic lets others know what is causing the problem that can be discussed later or that someone may be able to help you with now.
With much analyzing, which I do continuously..., I believe that when you see someone struggling or angry good words are "Is there anything I can do to help you?" This is not a usual comment. What is wrong with you? is more common, which immediately adds to the problem of the one who is already struggling.
Back to Dagger, we adopted him from Paws, an animal shelter in North Carolina where we camp. Ken and Sam have done volunteer service projects for them through the years when we go on vacation there. It turned out that Dagger is a mix of Lab and Water Spaniel. Therefore he is the size of a 5 month old Lab puppy and he is 6 years old. This is wonderful for us.
I need to be busy. I will stop for now. This may be the first and last entry. Who knows? I certainly did not plan to do this today or ever... P
